The
Resurrection Of Mickey Rourke By:
Steve Garbarino
Photos by
Sante D; Orazio
Maxim Magazine
December 2008
For a
decade he was as good as dead. But his
performance in, “The Wrestler”, the
hair-trigger actor has risen again. Will he
triumph, or go down in flames.
On a muggy Sunday afternoon in late September,
deep in-side the frankincense-heavy rectory of
42nd Street’s Holy Cross Church, Father Peter
Colapietro is touring me through the skeletal
wreckage of his kitchen, burnt recently in an
electrical fire by “some idiot.” Father Pete
suggests we go out to a nearby restaurant,
“throw down a belt” of Rebel Yell, and “blow
some smoke.” His church is poor by Manhattan
standards despite its1852 vintage. It’s a
ragged, grand red-brick slice of sanctuary for
the down and out between soup-line Hell’s
Kitchen and the triple-X remnant of Times
Square. The priest is concerned about how to pay
for the reconstruction of his church, which he
calls the “crossroads of the world.” But he’s
seen worse damaged goods. Like Mickey Rourke,
his friend and parishioner, who after a sudden
return to the spotlight spurred by a critically
lauded comeback role in Darren Aronofsky’s epic
new anti-Rocky drama, The Wrestler, now
finds himself at a crossroads of his own: one of
staying committed to rebuilding his life and
career or letting it fall to pieces again.
“Comeback?” says the actor. “When people come up
to me and say, ‘You’re back,’ I say, ‘Brother,
you don’t know where I’ve been.’” Ten years ago
the straggly Method performer—who throughout the
1980s scene-robbed and owned such indelible
films as Diner, Rumble Fish,
Barfly, and The Pope of Greenwich
Village, but whose acting career was
outweighed and beaten to a pulp by an on-again,
off-again professional boxing career, a mutually
abusive marriage (to sultry supermodel Carré
Otis, from 1992 to 1998), snot flings with
gossip columnists, Miami Beach goon-squadding,
exploding cheekbones, movie-set walk-offs, and
basic don’t-you-know-who-I-am Assholery 101—had
entered the church like a man without a home,
requesting the presence of a man of the
cloth.Father Pete knew who he was, despite “it
taking me 15 times to watch Angel Heart
[Rourke’s 1987 film about devil pacts,
costarring Robert De Niro as Lucifer] and still
not understand what the fuck was going on.” “It
was Mickey Rourke, and Mickey Rourke was in
trouble,” says the priest, a robust,
expletive-spouting Bronx native.
“He needed someone to talk to. He needed an
anchor. I told him that we are all our own worst
enemies. But Mickey was fighting the Axis powers
in his head: Germany, Japan, and Italy. I can’t
go deeper than that. ”Rourke, however, can.
Recalling one of his lowest moments, he says, “I
was about to commit two mortal sins.” His career
in a stranglehold, his billfold empty, his wife
walking, his gold-plated Rolls-Royce,
motorcycles, and other toys sold off to pay
bills, he was living in rentals and hotel rooms,
looking for lost love and a good day’s work.
Having come off such lamentable oil spillage as
1997’s Dennis Rodman–costarring lark Double
Team, as well as the 1991 big-budget bomb
Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man
and the camp-porno follow-up to 9½ Weeks,
Wild Orchid (costarring his future
wife, Otis), he was seriously contemplating
suicide. That was the first mortal sin. The
second: He was planning to murder, as he puts
it, “a guy who raped Carré when she was on
heroin and beat her up.”
“He needed someone to talk to, someone
nonjudgmental,” recalls Father Pete. “That’s
what confession is about. He admitted he had
fucked up his relationship with his wife. He had
something written down, a letter he’d written to
Carré—a note of a reconciliatory nature. I told
him, ‘Let’s fold it up and put it behind the
statue of Saint Jude.’ He went straight to the
statue. That was a good sign.” Saint Jude is the
patron saint of hopeless causes. “He’s the guy
to talk to when things seem totally hopeless and
you need an intercession by God,” says Father
Pete. Rourke lit a candle for a prayer, then
tucked his note behind the wooden sculpture of
the saint, within the dimly lit sanctuary.
Father Pete told him, “This isn’t magic. But God
loves you, and in the end, no matter how long it
takes, He will give you the strength you need.”
Then the priest and the actor went back to the
rectory to drink red wine and smoke cigarettes.
Fast-forward back to this rainy September day
and inside the church: Father Pete and I search
for Rourke’s note to Otis from so long ago. We
find several other hopeless-cause notes, but
Rourke’s is long gone, just like Otis herself.
Rourke, however, is still around, still in
contact with the priest. Father Pete heard from
him a day before our meeting at Holy Cross, and
he says of the actor, “He sounds better than he
has in years!” But he still sounds concerned.
“Still, he’s worrying about falling apart.“ I’ll
pray for him,” says the priest, “I really will.”
Mickey Rourke truly had it all: fancy cars, hot
supermodel wife, Hollywood Hills compound,
entourage of adulators, and one of the most
promising careers since Nicholson and Brando.
Rising
out of the ghetto in South Florida, moving to
New York, then La-La, he landed his first
notable short role in 1981’s neo-noir Body
Heat while working at a drag queen bar in
Hollywood. As a charismatic arsonist, he easily
overshadowed the stars, William Hurt and
Kathleen Turner - catapulting his career forward
on the A-list train. That was the ’80s, his
golden years. With his Irish good looks,
mischievous smile, and world-weary eyes - always
spelling trouble - his talent lay in making
character roles leads. But he fought with
directors, made scenes at nightclubs, got
arrested for stupid things. In 1991, after one
flop too many, he made the unprecedented and
ill-conceived move of leaving Hollywood to
become a professional boxer. He wasn’t bad. He
won some big matches over a five-year career,
but destroyed his Hollywood looks.
Reconstructive surgery contributed to his
somewhat waxen appearance today. “I don’t watch
my films. I hate watching myself,” he says. “I
haven’t seen The Wrestler, and I don’t
plan to, either.” Rourke’s downfall occurred
simultaneously with his marriage to Otis. It was
tumultuous tabloid fodder up until its final,
ugly flame-out in 1998. The money, the friends,
the love life, the looks, the career, all gone.
But now the gods appear to be favoring him
again. Ever since the Venice International Film
Festival awarded its highest honor to The
Wrestler—the New Jersey–set drama about a
washed-up 1980s ring champion named Randy “the
Ram” Robinson, attempting a second round in his
career and troubled life—the accolades for
Rourke’s starring performance have made him a
likely candidate for the Best Actor Oscar. His
ravaged, self-effacing role in the film
(costarring Marisa Tomei as an aging stripper
with a heart of gold and Evan Rachel Wood as
Rourke’s estranged lesbian daughter) has brought
him the best reviews of his life. Variety
offered up a sample rave: “Rourke creates a
galvanizing, humorous, deeply moving portrait
that instantly takes its place among the great,
iconic screen performances.” Harvey Weinstein,
whose production company gave Rourke his first
career jump-start with 2005’s graphic-novel
adaptation of Sin City, says of the new
film, “It’s one of those epic pictures that
really move you. This is a winner for
Mickey—maybe the winner. He’s really pulling out
the stops. ”And in his real life Rourke seems to
be making the right moves as well. He left the
place that ostracized him, Hollywood, for the
place that first embraced him, New York City,
“where it all began.” And so with the comeback
film of a bone-crushing lifetime, the
magnificent disaster that is—or was—Mickey
Rourke is witness to his own resurrection. But
is the pugilist finally at rest? Can he overcome
his own worst enemy—himself? Rise up, and stay
there? Or fuck up, and go nowhere? The stakes
are bigger than just a career.
The sacred and
the profane mix like holy water and Red Bull at
the West Village home of Mickey Rourke. His
first-floor walk-up is in a turn-of-the-century
brownstone located on a block where no-name
neighbors walk their dogs but celebrities come
and go from two venerable hot spots a bottle’s
throw away, including the Waverly Inn, where
Rourke holds court at his own table a couple of
nights a week. Rourke’s choice of neighborhood
seems premeditated: close enough to harm’s way,
easy enough to bring the party home or leave it
behind. And in choosing the digs, he’s created a
sort of sequel to The Pope of Greenwich
Village. Neighbors shout out to him but
don’t take pictures. He stops to talk, patting
their dogs, calling them “handsome” or a “real
looker.” He purrs, “Ooh-la-laah!” when a pretty
girl walks by. “We know everyone from six
brownstones down from the left to the right,” he
says in his deep, tough-guy voice. “We know
everybody by their first name, and everyone’s
got a dog.” And there is history: “The West
Village is the first place that I landed
20-something years ago, a few streets down. It’s
like I’m back in my nabe. I never knew my
neighbors for 15 years in L.A.—not one of them.
I
hate that fucking city! I hated it the first day
I got there, and I hated it the last day I was
there.” His Manhattan stoop, in our interviews,
becomes the in-plain-sight confessional, the
portal for inward-thinking, self-analysis,
self-doubts, where the tape recorder runs
freely. Inside the brownstone, the taping often
stops, a bawdy dude-party atmosphere dominates,
and what his therapist of more than a decade,
Dr. Steve, might call “arrested development”
prevails. Rourke has always been a guy’s guy,
and a loner when not. The body-building, the
biker fixation, the bar brawls; he’s a living
Fonzie, lots of bravado laced with nostalgia,
defending honor, and being a man. The “bad men”
he used to hang with notoriously in L.A. and
Miami - outlaw motorcycle gang members,
pilot-fish henchmen milking him of his money,
hipster hairstylists, losers of all walks - are
out of the picture. “I don’t travel with a
bodyguard anymore,” he says. “I jump in a
fucking cab when I go out.” His new-old posse
are people he’s known for years who have stuck
by him through the lean ones. “What it’s all
about in the end,” he says, “is giving and
sharing and being supportive, even when you’re
down, you know?” One pal, a shaved-head
bodybuilder named Scott Siegel, drops by one
night carrying a black tank of whey protein the
size of a mini-keg for Mickey’s use. He’s a shy
guy, a gentle giant, but makes a standout cameo
in The Wrestler as a drug dealer,
grocery-listing the intricate names of his
black-market steroids and painkillers to the
Ram. Says Rourke in his oft-kilter but fond way:
“He’s the biggest Jew on the planet! He may not
be as big as Harvey Weinstein” - another pal -
“but he’s big!” Rourke’s friend of 20 years J.P.
Parlavecchio lives with him in his downstairs
apartment, “taking care of my shit,” says Rourke.
He handles his daily schedule, making sure he
makes meetings, preparing gourmet meals for
Rourke’s many diminutive pets. Wearing his
signature fedora, J.P. looks like a guy you’d
see placing bets at a Tampa greyhound track.
“Mickey and I are old-school people,” says
Parlavecchio, who once owned bars and
restaurants in New York and Miami. All are gone
now. “We believe in trust and friendship. You
treat your friends the same, whether they’re on
top or on the bottom. I always tell Mickey the
truth, whether he likes it or doesn’t.” Says
Rourke: “I like J.P. because he’s a Chihuahua
lover.” Then later he adds, “J.P. knew me when I
was crazier than a fucking loon! I went through
a period where I lost my house, my wife, my
credibility, my career, my entourage, and what
have you. And when you are sinking, the rats
jump off the boat, you know? But even through
all the crazy times, J.P. was always there for
me. When I didn’t want to be bothered, I could
go sit and eat in his restaurants.” He often
chose a table in their kitchens. “And if I
didn’t want to leave my room, he’d send over the
kid with some lasagna.”
Most of his celebrity friends aren’t actors, but
iconic musicians—outsiders like himself, from
Bob Dylan and Axl Rose (who Rourke says
provided, free of charge, Guns n’ Roses’ hit
song “Sweet Child o’ Mine” for his film) to
Bruce Springsteen, who wrote the evocative title
song to The Wrestler for a nominal fee. “If I
could have another brother,” Rourke says of
Springsteen, “I’d pick him.”
************
Contrary
to his big-spender days, Rourke often eats at
home now, surrounded by six dogs of varying
sizes, all small. They clearly rule the roost,
along with a few guy friends. He permits himself
a blowout one night a week, typically Thursdays.
Sundays are “Mexican night” at the Rourke
household. On one such September evening, he
invites me over to join in the revelry of
takeout burritos and tacos, downed with Coronas
regularly knocked off the coffee table or over
on the parquet floors by his excitable pets. One
might expect Rourke to live in a glass box of a
place, like his apartment of ’80s excess in
9½ Weeks. Or perhaps the ultimate bachelor
pad, with black silk sheets, mirrored ceilings,
and a built-in wet bar. But the two-story
apartment is done up like a fancy boudoir right
out of New Orleans’ well-heeled Garden District,
and it suits Rourke, who lived in the city while
filming Angel Heart. Everywhere are
framed photographs of his heroes:
his brother, Hells Angels captains, the boozing,
brilliant actor Richard Harris. There’s a sexy
nude of his ex-wife, Otis, that he shot in
Tahiti. Ornate chandeliers cast shadows upon
Rourke’s visage and share space with a built-in
punching bag and a bench press. A gilt-edged
portrait of his prized dog, Loki, hangs where a
family portrait might preside in another home,
high above a marble fireplace. But there are
also touches an interior designer might not
quite approve of, such as the anatomically
correct rubber dildo that is suction-cupped to a
parlor wall. On Mexican night, an attractive
blonde-haired female friend sitting on a black
leather sofa next to Rourke nibbles on nachos,
feigning obliviousness to the prop jutting from
the wall, inches from her face. “That’s Little
Mickey,” emphasizes Rourke. On a shelf in the
bedroom, an arsenal of sex toys that would give
Robin Byrd pause awaits somebody or other.
Rourke, dressed comfortably casual in a flannel
shirt and jeans, points to the stripper pole
ensconced in the main room. It was incorporated
there as a centerpiece when he moved in several
months ago. But so far no bites from female
visitors. Like the sex toys, it’s more theater
than action. He pauses. “I’m waiting for the
right girl to come in and say, ‘You wanna see
something?’”
*****************
Rourke isn’t seeing anyone seriously now. Going
out at night, he often orders iced teas instead
of liquor. Not that he’s happy about it, but he
says he has to stay “focused.” “I’ve never had a
drug or alcohol problem. But that’s an easy hook
to lay on somebody,” he says. “For a period, I
was married to someone who was a drug addict, so
it’s easier for me to be labeled that. ”I
mention AA, and he shouts, “Fuck AA! I don’t
believe in it. But I think it’s real easy to
label somebody. It’s like labeling a chick with
blonde hair and big tits a bimbo.” Rourke says
he only indulges in alcohol after midnight. One
of his many text messages reads, “Discipline.
Discipline.” Later he confides, “My problem has
always been my anger. ”Rourke seems resigned to
bachelorhood, being with his pals, a
noncommittal date. While his career seems to be
moving forward, fast, he lives in the past, and
welcomes it. Like a good Catholic boy, he
believes that suffering brings redemption of
sorts. Dominating the living room is a candlelit
shrine, complete with snapshots, surrounding a
statue of the Virgin Mary. It is a requiem to
his beloved younger brother, Joe - a
good-looking, bearded biker who, Rourke says,
“is the inspiration for everything I do.” He
died on October 6, 2004 from cancer. When he
passed, Rourke held him in his arms, on his
deathbed, assured him it was OK for him to go.
Rourke later tossed his ashes into the sea,
where he says he heard Joe’s voice and saw a
flash of blue light. “I just stood at the foot
of the ocean and screamed. Then I went back to
my hotel room and drank a bottle of whiskey.
”Now when he sees a blue light anywhere, he
believes that Joey is with him, cueing him in.
It happened when Axl Rose sang “Knockin’ on
Heaven’s Door” at a concert and gave Joe a
shout-out. Rourke bawled with tears. “I couldn’t
stop shaking. ”He tours me through the denlike
basement room where J.P. lives and points to a
framed black-and-white photo of four-year-old
Joe Rourke being pushed in a wheelbarrow by
five-year-old Mickey—always the protector. The
photo was taken at the Schenectady, New York
house of his grandmother. “Those were the happy
times,” says Rourke. “But they only lasted five
years.” J.P. says, “Well, you’re smiling now.”
As Rourke points at his Memory Lane wall, you
see the word "JOE" spelled out in oxidized ink
block letters on a finger. The tattoo can be
seen in The Wrestler, not by
accident.The loss of Carré from his life was his
first heartbreak; Joe, his second. The two
inform all he does and doesn’t do. “Being alone
has now become like a way of life,” he says on
his steps one night, smoking a Marlboro Red. “I
can’t foresee myself living in the same house
with somebody.” That is, a girlfriend or wife or
child. “I have my dogs, and you know what? You
couldn’t give me $10 million a piece for them.
“I had a relationship in which I loved the woman
from here and beyond,” he continues. “But it was
a destructive one. We were both damaged goods at
the time.”On the subject of having children,
Rourke says, “People say to me, ‘You don’t have
kids?’ And I go, No. A guy like me? I could
never have a kid, because, you know, it’s like,
maybe I’d want one, but I would never¼”
He trails off. “The worst thing I could do as a
human being would be to have a kid, be living
with some woman, get a divorce, and have my son
or daughter live with some other man. After what
happened to me, I couldn’t do that.”
*************
What happened
to Mickey Rourke was that he was born into a
broken, abusive family in Schenectady, along
with his younger brother and sister. Rourke says
he recalls seeing his father only twice: at age
six and, 20 years later, at 26. “He was a
carpenter. And he was a bodybuilder, back when
it was freaky to be one.” He left the family
when they were very young. “My father drank
himself to death at 47,” says Rourke, who
nonetheless is proud enough of his pop to dig up
a black-and-white of the handsome, muscular man,
shirtless and holding Rourke at age two.
His father once held the title of Mister New
York, USA. His mother remarried, reportedly a
cop, and when Rourke was still a child, the
family moved to Liberty City, in Miami, a town
known for its high crime rate. The years there
would become his own personal hell. “He was the
guy that did all the shit to me when I was
little¼certain
physical shit that happened when I was too small
to defend myself. “The atrocities that happened
in that house I lived in were so nightmarish, I
later surrounded myself with bad people, really
bad people. Jails are filled with people that
can’t function because of what happened to them.
But, you know, I’ve never wanted to be a victim.
”Rourke wanted to be a baseball player, and he
was very good at it, as he was with all sports,
including football and boxing. But, he says,
“You can’t concentrate on hitting a curveball
when you’ve got Halloween III going on
at home. I had no discipline because of all the
chaos at home. I had no support. No
concentration. “I came from a very
disorganized—I’m not going to say dysfunctional,
because it was beyond dysfunctional¼I
can’t even put a word to it. I just never had
any encouragement from anybody. ”In the past
Rourke has said that he got into acting after
auditioning for and landing a role in a Jean
Genet play at the University of Miami. His
performance was well-received, and it certainly
provided the impetus to an acting career. But,
he says, the reality was that he had to get out
of Dodge to stay alive. “I didn’t run to New
York City because I couldn’t wait to be an
actor. I ran there because I was with a group of
boys down in Liberty City, and we found
ourselves on the short end of a gunfight, OK?
I’m only 18, and it was just some monkey
business gone wrong. ”More specifically, he
says, “It was a drug deal that turned into a
ripoff. And bullets were flying. And, let’s put
it this way, our guns were smaller than theirs,
OK? I realized I wasn’t going to live long in
this line of work. I didn’t feel right doing it.
It’s nice playing those kinds of people in
movies, but in real life it sucks. Because when
you’re shooting at somebody, your hand is
shaking. ”Cut to New York City, where Rourke
decided to go for broke, ending up at the Actors
Studio, still carrying his suitcase and bags. “A
guy there said, ‘Well, I think you should get a
room first.’ I said, Oh, yeah¼OK.”
There he began studying the Method, alongside
such colleagues as Christopher Walken, Al Pacino,
Robert De Niro, and Harvey Keitel. “Looking
around in that little tiny building and seeing
these guys? I shook in my fucking dirty blue
jeans. I mean, those were the gods. They were
the role models, and they still are. I decided
to give acting a year.” Now he’s one of them,
suddenly being recalled by many who had
dismissed him as a goner.
Rourke’s dogs are like him: goners given up on
by others. And the deal is this: Do not mess
with them, do not ask him, “What’s with the
Chihuahuas, dude?” If you do you will find
yourself on all fours, barking an apology,
eating from a straw. But should you run into the
actor on the street and wonder about their
pedigree, here’s a brief history of the
contestants:
1. Loki, a.k.a., Number 1.: Travels the
world with Mickey, and is the daughter of Beau
Jack the Great (R.I.P.). Mickey’s best friend on
the planet, Loki is the last surviving member of
a litter of seven. Loki is 15 years old and is a
Chihuahua terrier.
2. Jaws the Enforcer, a.k.a. Guapo (“handsome”
in Spanish): Rescued from an East L.A.
street gang. Listed as “unadoptable” in a pound
holding 79 dogs. When he held the snarling dog,
it bit his lip, giving him two stitches. An hour
later Mickey took Jaws home. Real name (God’s
honest): Little Mickey. Jaws is six years old
and is a white terrier, albeit a plump one.
3. Ruby, a.k.a. Ruby Baby: four times
adopted and returned by unhappy owners—diagnosed
with something unpronounceable, Ruby destroyed
$4,000 worth of Mickey’s shoes and 36 pairs of
designer sunglasses in her first month living
with him. Now the sweetest and most gentle of
the “kids,” Ruby is five years old and is a
white Alaskan mini-Pomeranian.
4. La Negra, a.k.a. Fat Bastard:
Rescued from a divorced couple, her brother
eaten by coyotes, La Negra has insomnia (like
her owner). She is four years old and is a black
pug. She likes to watch late-night TV.
5. Bella, a.k.a. Bella Loca: Rescued in
Texas on a movie set, she was found with glass
stuck in her head and imbedded in her stomach
and a nail in her neck. She has bad legs. She is
13 years old and is a Chihuahua terrier.
6. Peppino, a.k.a. Taco Bell: With an
apple head and oversize ears, Peppino was a
Christmas gift from Mickey to J.P. two years
ago. She is two years old and is a
chocolate-brown Chihuahua. “They fill a gap,”
explains Rourke of his pound of portly
miniatures, oft the objects of puzzlement. “My
bed’s never empty. I look forward to coming home
and seeing the kids. When I travel to Europe or
wherever, Loki’s always with me. She’s like a
giant Xanax, you know? I’m not going to get
religious on your ass, but I truly believe God
created dogs for a cause. They are the greatest
companions a man could ever have. For 20 years
it’s been Chihuahua City for me. ”Rourke’s
litter eat well, often better than he does. To
that effect J.P., an experienced chef, keeps
them on an unrestricted diet, providing nightly
specials, including,
Monday: Boiled chicken breast with rice
and veggies.
Tuesday: Ground sirloin with brown rice
and carrots.
Wednesday: Boiled Sabrett hot dogs with
shredded cheddar cheese.
Thursday: Grilled pork chops with mixed
vegetables and rice.
Friday: Grilled chicken breast with
brown rice and potatoes.
Saturday: McDonald’s cheeseburgers, no
buns, no pickles.
Sunday: Tuna fish with mixed veggies.
Note: Snacks include beef jerky, pizza,
peanut butter, Chinese spare ribs, ice cream;
Loki drinks Smartwater (“for its extra
electrolytes”).
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To Rourke, good
things do not happen to those who wait, and
nothing is handed to you. It’s an Irish Catholic
thing. To some, there was a brush fire, which
started this decade, steadily growing under his
anemic career, beginning with his eerily moving
role as a transvestite inmate in Steve Buscemi’s
2000 prison drama Animal Factory. The
next year his role as a grieving father,
opposite Jack Nicholson in Sean Penn’s bleak
The Pledge, caught critics’ eyes. And the
flames rose higher with his performance as a
prosthetics-enhanced vigilante named Marv in
Robert Rodriguez and Frank Miller’s Sin City.
And still he is often his own worst enemy. He
nearly passed on Darren Aronofsky’s offer for
him to play Randy the Ram. “He was tentative,”
says Aronofsky. “Boxers have a resistance to
wrestling. They see it as fake, suspect. But
when he started to meet with some of the old
guys, he saw there was real art to it, and was
impressed with their universe. ”To hear Rourke
tell it, he feared the wrestling part would kill
him and, more so, that it would call for him to
dig “too far into my dark places.” Aronofsky, a
longtime fan of Rourke’s, always had him in mind
for the role. “I wanted an actor that had been
through the mill a bit,” says the director, who
then laid down rules Rourke had to follow or the
deal was off: Stay out of the nightclubs, give
100 percent, nothing less. And two major
caveats: Rourke couldn’t get paid, initially,
and he had to do all his own stunts, abiding to
the naturalism Aronofsky was striving for.
“Mickey’s a shy guy down deep, embarrassed of
his gifts, and he spends a lot of time running
from them,”
he
says. Rourke, who has countless injuries from
boxing and high school football, was thrown into
two months of daily training. While not working
out and being slammed to the mat by actual
professional wrestlers, he was staying in seedy
New Jersey hotels around Asbury Park, one of the
settings of the low-budget film. There were zero
frills. His physical trainer, an ex-Israeli army
commando, was paid even before Rourke. Some
thought it would be easy for him, having been an
athlete all his life. He had to put on nearly 40
pounds of muscle, shooting from 190 to 228
pounds. It was grueling. “When we wrapped, I had
a mini physical breakdown for four days,” he
says. But there were no complaints. “I heard
Darren had a real large brain. I heard he did
not compromise. I heard he was his own man. He
told me how I had ruined my career for the past
15 years by my behavior. He said, ‘You can’t
disrespect me. You have to listen to everything
I tell you.’ And I go, OK. This guy has a
lot of balls. This is the kind of guy I want to
work for. He said, ‘If you do all those
things, we’ll go to the show.’” The “show” is
the Oscars. The result: “He just completely
surrendered. He was completely present. I can’t
think of any other actor where it comes so
naturally.” The director says he couldn’t have
asked for more, but with Rourke, getting the
approval of other wrestlers, and even their
fans, was just as important. For one scene
Rourke wrestled an opponent in front of a rabid
group of 1,500 real wrestling fans. “At best we
thought we could get this actor to imitate a pro
wrestler,” says Douglas Crosby, the stunt
coordinator. “Instead, he became one in every
possible way of the imagination. He left the
real audience dumbfounded. He was performing
sophisticated maneuvers that only the highest
echelon of wrestlers consider attempting.” Says
Afa Anoa’i, a.k.a. the Wild Samoan, Rourke’s
head wrestling trainer, “He’s the type of guy
that wants to go, go, go! He has that look and
that craziness. He walked into the locker room
and just dropped his pants, like one of the
boys. And he learned to respect our sport. He
went beyond, pulled some challenging moves. And
he’s got a very bad knee. But he said to me,
‘I’m going to do this one for you, Pops,’ and he
sure did.” Rourke’s coach on the set, Tommy
Farra, says, “I never dealt with any actors. I
thought he’d be a pain or a pansy. Maybe a
little bit of both. Actors have that reputation.
But I was pleasantly surprised. He took to
wrestling with relative ease, and was an
incredibly nice guy. I’m being honest. I know a
lot of wrestlers who couldn’t pull off what he
did.”
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To be sure, a good deal of Hollywood is behind
Mickey Rourke right now, despite that he’s not
always behind them. He refers to one well-known
actor as having “the charisma of a soft-boiled egg
with legs.” One female acting prodigy, he can’t even
comprehend how she gets roles. “Old Mickey” would
have named the names, but he asks me to leave them
out. And he hasn’t even learned yet that you have to
be a liberal to make it in Hollywood—or at least
pretend to be. A Bush supporter, he says, “I think
that W. has taken a lot of heat. But after 9/11
there wasn’t much of a solution. I’m glad that we
went over and kicked some ass just to pay them back.
He’s in a shitty place. They blame him for the
fucking hurricane in New Orleans!” “They” would
include such outspoken liberal actors as Tim Robbins
and Susan Sarandon. His Wrestler costar Evan Rachel
Wood, though, only witnessed his gentle side. “He
was the main thing that drew me to the film,
actually,” she says. “I loved watching him work. I
have never seen anyone so focused. He was in the
role, and without it being forced Method-acting
pretentiousness. Most actors do that because they’re
insecure, because they have to live and breathe it
to be real, and it ends up being fake. He’s Mickey,
one of the craziest guys I know, but with a heart of
gold.” Rourke gave Wood a birthday cake for her
21st. He included handcuffs in its box. “He knows me
so well,” she jokes. “By the end of the night, I was
handcuffed to a champagne bottle and didn’t know
what happened.” According to Weinstein, Rourke’s
looks might now work to his favor. “His façade
reflects the intensity of the characters he plays,
and people are drawn to his whole persona. His looks
offer something different than the Hollywood norm—no
one is like him. And, you know, despite his tough
exterior he’s really an honest, good person at
heart.” Much is made of Rourke’s face, which can
appear impenetrable and expressive simultaneously.
But if literal transformation can come with
redemption, then the mask he dons under the
straggly, bleach-streaked mane seems to soften with
each meeting I have with him. And his eyes appear
more alive than they have in years.
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After
over a decade of therapy, Rourke knows what he’s had
to do to change himself, fit in somewhat with
society, with Hollywood, that cliquish subculture.
And there have been, as the therapist might say,
“progress” and “breakthroughs.” “I let my past
destroy me,” he says. “I was walking around my adult
life with my fists clenched¼pointing
the finger at everyone but me. “But I finally opened
my hands and went, Wow! This is a lot easier than
walking around with smoke coming out of my ass. I
was looking for this big fight, this war, you know?
And it was all in my head.” He now talks about
“turning the other cheek,” although a guy recently
pissed him off so much by not shaking his hand that,
he says, “I wanted to punch this motherfucker right
in the fucking mouth and knock all his teeth out.”
But cooler heads prevailed. “To this day,” though,
he says, “I still think about sticking my hand up
this guy’s ass and pulling out his tongue.” On a
final visit to his house one late afternoon, sitting
in his living room, Rourke nudges my shoulder and
smiles mischievously, pointing to an object under
the coffee table. It is a black handgun just lying
there for anyone to pick up. I do, feeling its
weight. He warns me not to pull the trigger; a live
bullet is in the chamber. I set it down. Says the
actor, “I still got that little time bomb inside of
me. I’m still capable of fucking things up. It’s
like my dog Jaws. Because of what happened to him
when he was little, he’ll always growl when you put
your hands near him. Sometimes, I mean, people are
putting their hands near you to pet you on the back,
not hit you over the head. Before, if someone
disrespected me, the little hatchet man that lives
inside of me would come out. Now, at least, I’m
gonna count to 10 before I act on it. It’s like they
say, Only a fool trips over the same rock twice. But
I could short-circuit in a heartbeat. That little
hatchet man, he’s always gonna be there. You can’t
change the spots on a horse, you know? I’m always,
deep down inside, going to have him running around.
I just gotta make sure he stays¼quiet.”